Correction
Last week, I put up a post flogging myself publicly for deleting a dissenting opinion comment that had initially annoyed me. Today, I found it intact. I had not deleted the comment at all!
Not only am I Purple, I am human and I make mistakes. Here is the comment I could not find last week:
"Creative Commons is about sharing. So is having children, by the way, although some suffer for the loss of that gift. I don't subscribe to your negative message, but I share regardless, as God does with us his creation. *clairity*"This comment was left on the post titled Childfree Senior by LauraS (September 2, 2005), not on Friendships by Twiga92 (November 18, 2005)!
I have invited Clairity, whose lovely picture I found on Flickr and used to illustrate the original post, to contribute a Guest Post. She would be our first parent to do so. Let's see if she is willing to share further.
Technorati Tag: Childfree
4 comments:
Judging from the look of her blog, I'd have to agree.
Teri, I know you like to be excruciatingly fair. But this exercise is likely (if it indeed happens) to be just that --- excruciating.
I'd just like to know why our message is negative.
There is a reason I changed the name from Purple Women (sounds like preaching to the choir, which can be very fun) to Purple Women & Friends. After I did that, and meetig their webmaster in person at the BlogHer conference, Silicon Valley Moms blog linked to us. I wanted to open up the dialogue to differing views.
I guess I am tired of quick judgements and I'd like to hear it spelled out.
I also represent the woman she describes to some degree. I was not given "the gift" and I had to decide who I wanted to be. The choice was highlighted for me by my inability to have a child naturally. I wanted to know what other paths existed, not pity.
I am not an early articulator, I made a choice to be childfree all the same. I think it is important to represent the true range of who childfree women are. We do not all "hate kids", but some of us do. By revealing who we are, we break down blanket stereotypes.
This woman is an avid blogger. She authors more than one blog and is on two team blogs. I trust that she fundamentally "gets it" -- that blogging is all about the dialogue. Can we agree to disagree? Does it belong on the front page? Perhaps. I give her huge credit for leaving the comment with links back to her online identity, instead of just signing and untracable "Anonymous".
I would really like to hear from a parent. I have had some great conversations with parents about our endeavor here.
The blogger in question and I have corresponded offline.
Let's just see what happens.
I wouldn't mind hearing from a parent, but not this one. The name is too ironic.
Post a Comment