tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post114298057836746918..comments2023-10-31T05:09:35.339-04:00Comments on Purple Women & Friends: Need a kid fix? Why not mentor?Laura S. Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1152541421927338132006-07-10T10:23:00.000-04:002006-07-10T10:23:00.000-04:00I really like the dialogue that this post inspired...I really like the dialogue that this post inspired. I would like to feature it in the sidebar.<BR/><BR/><B>Dr. Band</B> - What's not to love about that blog handle! I looked at your profile to learn that you are a high school band teacher. BTW, we both list Blade Runner as one of our favourite movies.<BR/><BR/>Congrats on your engagement. Is your fiance childfree or are you going to be a step-parent?<BR/><BR/>I would really like to be a Big Sister, when we move back to California...and not just so I can blog about it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1152495887980811032006-07-09T21:44:00.000-04:002006-07-09T21:44:00.000-04:00Another vote for being a Big Sister here. I was m...Another vote for being a Big Sister here. I was matched for about four years with a native American girl here in NH, from when she was 10 to about 14. Big Brothers/Big Sisters are very careful about matching you with a kid who shares your interests. In my case, we generally listened to music in the car on the way to hiking, playing pool, etc. (she was a SHARK!) or just walked our dogs together. The time requirement was something like 2-4 hours, every two weeks. The only real requirement, according to the agency, was "do what you say you'll do, be where you say you'll be", and show the Little a bigger world than they would otherwise be exposed to. My Little lived with her mom and step-dad (no dad in the picture); both adults in her household had lousy jobs and therefore had to work many, many hours. They were wonderful about the match and very supportive. Unfortunately, they moved to VA when my Little was 14.<BR/><BR/>The "traditional matches", like mine, within BB/BS take quite a bit of set-up, since once you're matched, there's very little in the way of supervision from the agency. There's also an "in-school match" which, if you've got less time but are available during school hours, you can spend and hour every week or two with a Little. Because it's in-school, the vetting process for Traditional Matches (meeting with a social worker, going to a training session, having a quick home visit, etc.) isn't necessary, so it's all a lot more streamlined. You can hang out with the Little, do homework, shoot baskets, whatever.<BR/><BR/>BTW, I'm really enjoing the PW site here. Having hung out on Usenet's alt.support.childfree site for just about the entire late '90s, I have to say I really appreciate the calm, civilized tone here!<BR/><BR/>Elisebonsaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05710936495001427190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1143326529396967152006-03-25T17:42:00.000-05:002006-03-25T17:42:00.000-05:00Ooooooooh!Ooooooooh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1143324933922215912006-03-25T17:15:00.000-05:002006-03-25T17:15:00.000-05:00You don't necessarily have to be religious to be a...You don't necessarily have to be religious to be a God parent and although it has been taken to be a somewhat religious it was probably something that was done way before the church got involved. It also isn't a Catholic invention. Having said that, even if you are not religious, if you're asked to be a God parent, it's likely that one of the parents of the child is religious or at least a church goer. It would be pretty hypocritical if two Atheists asked someone to be a God parent to their child.<BR/>Accepting the role of God parent simply means that you pledge to look after your God child if anything should happen to the child's parents, e.g, if they died for example. It's a moral obligation rather than a legal one, but it is a responsibility. It is a compliment to be asked to be a God parent, as it means the parents trust you with their child's best interests if they should no longer be there. When the child is formally christened (which happens in a church) the God parents are formally acknowledged by all present at the christening ceremony. These days, a God parent is likely to be more active in the childs life when their parents are around, rather like an aunt or uncle.Britgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00222360536083884470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1143252486935273172006-03-24T21:08:00.000-05:002006-03-24T21:08:00.000-05:00Chris -- how is that going? I've never been the de...Chris -- how is that going? I've never been the designated "God"-anything. I feel like I play that role for my niece and nephew, but they are not religious and I believe that the whole "God-parent" thing is of the Catholic persuations, yes?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1143165845462144632006-03-23T21:04:00.000-05:002006-03-23T21:04:00.000-05:00I have had thoughts along these lines. Maybe I can...I have had thoughts along these lines. Maybe I can explore this when we move back home to California. I adore my nieces and nephews and although I have accepted not raising kids in this lifetime, I wouldn't mind having a relationship with a young person. <BR/><BR/>I did a little walk on the "wild side" and ran a swim school for year and a half, helped the owner sell it and do a smooth transition. I was surrounded by kids and parents. I really enjoyed the interaction with the kids expecially, admittedly some more than others. It was an interesting window into family lifestyles, very multicultural as it was in Northern California. The customers were very diverse.<BR/><BR/>It's a big committment to pledge time to another person and to be consistent. But when compared to full-on parenting, it seems that so little of my time can make a big difference for a young person. I am very interested in hearing more about this. What organizations do this? What kind of screening do they do? How do they match you with the child/teen? What are the minimum expectations? I am asking this retorically, as I am sure each program is different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1143064709341372802006-03-22T16:58:00.000-05:002006-03-22T16:58:00.000-05:00That had occurred to me, but that depends a whole ...That had occurred to me, but that depends a whole lot on the kid and how much authority their parents will give you. Too many parents don't want anyone telling their kids anything, even if the advice is solid.Hillarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00842127072237864050noreply@blogger.com