tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post115089649150859163..comments2023-10-31T05:09:35.339-04:00Comments on Purple Women & Friends: Childfree Advocacy vs. AwarenessLaura S. Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1151663833573512722006-06-30T06:37:00.000-04:002006-06-30T06:37:00.000-04:00NikkiJ - I have alterior motives for wanting to be...<B>NikkiJ</B> - I have alterior motives for wanting to be in the spotlight because of the book I am writing. Reporters still make me wary. I hope that what we are doing with this blog will help childfree folks develop some fortification for their interpersonal interactions here. It is certainly helping me.<BR/><BR/><B>CarpeWritem</B> - I really like your blog handle. Thank you for leaving this comment (and taking the time to read a back post with lots of comments). It's important to have the male perspective.<BR/><BR/>Often I am more comfortable with just <I>being</I>. I can't hide behind my 20s anymore...starting to look my age!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1151640615186909042006-06-30T00:10:00.000-04:002006-06-30T00:10:00.000-04:00I am very intrigued by Nikki's last comment, and I...I am very intrigued by Nikki's last comment, and I must agree that there <B>are</B> different "levels of silence". No doubt. I must say, however, that one may want to speak up about being child-free only if they're passionate about the subject <B>and</B> comfortable with the ensuing attention. I'm not trying to create a contingent or limiting viewpoint, I'm just stressing the fact that there are many different child-free personalities out there, and some might feel better addressing the subject only if asked. Some people don't want to stick out, some do.<BR/><BR/>Overall, I agree with Teri: Just BE child-free. I believe that society will eventually grow to accept us, whether we talk about our decision now or later. After all, we aren't going anywhere - we'll be around for quite a while.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16787382070556920745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1151252892003120542006-06-25T12:28:00.000-04:002006-06-25T12:28:00.000-04:00There are levels of silence. Not everyone wants to...There are levels of silence. Not everyone wants to come out in the media and have the spotlight on their private life, but childfree people do need to speak up when in the company of others rather than keeping quiet because it's easier or they don't want the hassle. People will assume you either have or want children until their assumptions are challenged. But they will remember you if you are one of the poeple who challenged their own assumptions.Britgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00222360536083884470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1151015667114976792006-06-22T18:34:00.000-04:002006-06-22T18:34:00.000-04:00In a way I agree with the author I am currently re...In a way I agree with the author I am currently reading on the subject, that our silence is not helping. It perpetuates the paternal, pro-natal, mother as be all and end all view.<BR/><BR/>But let's not advocate. Let's just BE childfree.<BR/><BR/>A new word for our lexicon, initiated by a childfree festival attendee...childFREEDOM!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1150928019796991082006-06-21T18:13:00.000-04:002006-06-21T18:13:00.000-04:00I hated the "you'll change your mind" comment when...I hated the "you'll change your mind" comment when I was in my early married years. Well, I still hate the comment, but I don't seem to get it anymore. I do wonder why people just assume that someone else will make a choice just because it's the "norm" in society. I think that's what makes it hard for me - the assumptions that other people make.twiga92https://www.blogger.com/profile/16751327144782362475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1150923046604210352006-06-21T16:50:00.000-04:002006-06-21T16:50:00.000-04:00It's good to know I'm not the only one doing it. ...It's good to know I'm not the only one doing it. Sometimes I feel I should speak up, challenge those stuck on the idea that there is a "right" path for life. But then I'd have to explain that I don't want to get married, either.kThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02382140449117155852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1150919315048290122006-06-21T15:48:00.000-04:002006-06-21T15:48:00.000-04:00I skated by in my 20s on the same "oh, maybe somed...I skated by in my 20s on the same "oh, maybe someday" notion. The subject was just too personal to correct anyone's assumption.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1150916622773412152006-06-21T15:03:00.000-04:002006-06-21T15:03:00.000-04:00Yeah, just because you're single doesn't mean you'...Yeah, just because you're single doesn't mean you're a pre-mom. That's a frustrating cultural hangup.Shannon Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07824123805925551656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1150915625366597792006-06-21T14:47:00.000-04:002006-06-21T14:47:00.000-04:00I think sometimes, though, it's easy to hide. I d...I think sometimes, though, it's easy to hide. I do. I'm 28 and single, so people <I>assume</I> that I'm waiting to have children. More often than not, I just don't bother to correct them because I don't want to hear "oh, you'll change your mind," or "why not?" Part of me wonders if they might not be right? I don't think so, but you hear the same things over and over and begin to think maybe They have a point.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I wish I was willing to speak out more and assert that this is my choice, not a by-product of circumstance.kThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02382140449117155852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16233914.post-1150904795588867422006-06-21T11:46:00.000-04:002006-06-21T11:46:00.000-04:00I appreciate the awareness (not advocacy) focus. ...I appreciate the awareness (not advocacy) focus. I don't want pro-natalists pushing their lifestyle on me, so it's only fair not to do the same from our angle. That being said, I think I advocate the childfree lifestyle simply by living it, just as I advocate recycling just by putting my cans on the curb every week. Positive role models lend credence to any pursuit, and we are bound to sway a few people toward a childfree choice just by being reasonable, happy humans.Shannon Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07824123805925551656noreply@blogger.com