September 26, 2006

Childless: No Choice

Childless: No Choice
by James H. Monach
1993

This book is about couples who want kids more than anything and cannot have them. There are lots of paths open to them medically and also adoption...if they can afford it.

About 20 years ago I went looking for a good book about being an adult female without kids. All I could find were books more in the categories above. I really didn't want to go down that sad path and find disappointment at the end, nor was I in a relationship that could support it, emotionally or financially.

Labels are so convenient; childless and childfree (child-free) terms mean different things to different people. I prefer to be Purple. It's more fun, and it gets the conversation started.

When I see the above book title, I think of the path not taken. I was in my early 20s and was facing the reality that I would never bear my own children. I needed to explore other options. I had seen the price tag on IVF and in-vitro procedures and felt that if I had that kind of money there might be better uses. I am glad I chose my alternative adult identity and found a man who is like-minded (but, don't call him Purple – tee, hee).

At Purple Women & Friends, we invite everyone to the table, just bring your curiosity and an open mind. I hope our blog, with multiple voices and viewpoints, helps others explore the path less traveled.

I invite mothers, fathers, lovers, friends and siblings of Purple WomenTM to participate in the conversation...starting with my own!


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3 comments:

Dawn said...

With utmost respect and no tongue-in-cheek behind this question, I ask if commenters with children are welcome?

Teri said...

Yes, please.

LauraS said...

I've had the privilege to meet many unintentionally childless people who have reframed their reality and embraced a childfree life. Or I should say: a purple life!
These people have shown me that "Choice" means many things, including choosing to be happy.