Recently I was reminded by a college classmate of mine that I had used the phrase "never say never" in college. At the time, I had used it in the context that I didn't want to become a pastor's wife. But knowing that things change, I said "never say never", knowing that I could fall in love with someone who would be a pastor (going to Bible college, a lot of the guys there were training to be pastors). My college classmate had come across my blog and was intrigued by my childfree choice. She asked me about my phrase and what that meant in regards to my childfree status.
There is still possibility out there that I could have children. In that sense, I would still say "never say never". For me it comes from my belief that God is in control and if He desires I have children, then He could orchestrate it. The chances of my becoming pregnant are extremely slim since my husband has had a vasectomy. However, if somehow I did become pregnant, I already know that my beliefs are such that I wouldn't have an abortion. Most likely, my husband and I would choose to give the baby up for adoption since we don't have the means to raise the child and do not want to be parents ourselves.
In the beginning of our marriage we talked about the possibility of changing our minds in the future. We knew that there was the option of adopting if we decided someday that we wanted children. But we felt strongly that we were making the right choice for us. Now, as we approach our 9-year anniversary, I have no doubts that we made the right choice. I still have no desire to have children. I'm past the 30-year mark and my biological clock is definitely NOT ticking!
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