Freedom!
Every month, I participate in a blog exchange with a dozen or so other women, most of whom are mothers. Every month we choose a topic and each write on what that topic means to us : this month it was, fittingly, freedom.
I wrote about my love of having freedom to live my life the way I want. In reading all the other entries, I found most of them writing about what very little freedom they do have because of their kids. A couple of ladies wrote about missing going to the bathroom by themselves. A couple wrote about not being able to go to the movies or out to dinner. Many wrote about not have the freedom to even sleep.
While each of them was sure to add how worth it it was to them, I simply can't imagine. This is a major reason why I choose to NOT have children.
I. LOVE. MY. FREEDOM.
Losing that freedom is so NOT worth it to me. Is that selfish? Maybe a little. But, ya know what? I can decide to go to the movies 10 minutes before it starts. I can eat at whatever restaurant I feel like. I can even go to the bathroom and shut the door if I want.
And, sorry, but it just can't get any better than that.
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6 comments:
Here here!
I can't imagine how my move would be going right now if we had children or for that matter how sitting here at 7:58 am with my coffee would be. I just can't imagine giving this up, I love it too much.
Besides not having an overwhelming maternal drive, freedom was the most important factor in my decision. I treasure it. Sometimes I do something exciting with my freedom, and sometimes I just surf on my PC all day + night. Love. It.
Freedom is a great topic, especailly for Americans who are celebrating their Independence Day tomorrow, however, it is a term that should apply to all people. It is a fundamental human right, modified in implementation by institutions and dogma, society in general.
Freedom to do with our lives what we want. That's what all women want, I think. Not a prescribed life, dictated by others. How we should dress, how much skin to expose, how to walk, how many children to have (if any). Does too much individual freedom harm others?
Freedom is a responsibility, as much as a right, I think. "First, do no harm" should be part of everyone's philosophy, not just doctors'. Because I don't have children, and work at home, I sometimes have to remind myself that I'm still part of a much larger community. And that I'm still accountable to that community despite considerable personal freedom.
Just as I don't want to be judged, I truly try not to judge other people's choices -- which is another kind of freedom, really. Free from thinking that what is right for me would work for anyone else.....
I enjoy my space enough that I wonder if I will ever decide to live with another person again, not in the least one who would be entirely dependent on me for a good while.
But then, I was born on Independence Day......
Happy Birthday KT!!!
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